You'd have to have them go to a website of yours which would log their ip. You could use Freewebs to set up a free site, but then you'd need to convince them to go to the site, and you'd need to write a script that would log their ip.
Uh ya I was on Google looking up some information for AIM and some cool buddy icons and I ran across this funny little thing you might want to see. It is a website that gets peoples IP address. You just plug in your email address and copy the link, then send it to some one. via defcon