Learn the ways to forgive others

When you feel you have been mistreated, a range of emotions can develop. Feelings of hurt and betrayal can eat away at your thoughts and interrupt your daily activities, making it impossible to let go and move on. Learning how to forgive can help those emotions resolve.

How To Forgive Others

Be honest with yourself, both about you and the situation in question.
Next, write down the situation in specific detail.
Forgive yourself for any part you feel you played and use it as a learning tool.
Don't hold resentment or refuse to forgive.
Lastly, be confident and proud of yourself for being responsible.

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9 Steps to Forgiveness

1.	Know exactly how you feel about what happened and be able to articulate what about the situation is not OK.

2.	Make a commitment to yourself to do what you have to do to feel better.

3.	Forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation with the person that hurt you, or condoning of their action.

4.	Get the right perspective on what is happening.

5.	At the moment you feel upset practice a simple stress management technique to soothe your body's flight or fight response.

6.	Give up expecting things from other people, or your life , that they do not choose to give you.

7.	Put your energy into looking for another way to get your positive goals met than through the experience that has hurt you.

8.	Remember that a life well lived is your best revenge.

9.	Amend your grievance story to remind you of the heroic choice to forgive.